Self Love is Not Selfish: Let's Celebrate!
As my personal new year approaches and I reflect back on all of my experiences this year, I can truly say I've learned to simply love myself more. Now, on the surface, this may seem egotistical and selfish, but hear me out.
This year I experienced a few times where I aligned and even negated my value based on my short comings, mistakes and even things that were just completely out of my control: My complacency in blogging, my health and increase in that beautiful cellulite, and trying to adapt in new countries.
Sometimes it's incredibly frightening how much our thoughts affect our well being. So given that much power, it's so important to take care of those self-conscious thoughts. There are over 11.5 MILLION #SelfLove and #SelfCare posts on Instagram, so the topics and idea is pretty popular, but do you actually do it?
Self-love isn't about feeling pretty or your body being snatched. It's about embracing your flaws and deciding that you're still deserving of joy. You deserve to be loved, not only by others, but by YOU. So here's how you can practice that positive, self-affirming love:
Celebrate small and big victories. You might finish your first mile, or your first 5K. You might launch a shop on your website or open up a store front. Either way, each one is a victory and a step closer to the goals you set for yourself. Celebrate it all.
Encourage yourself like you encourage others. I am a woman that will encourage and help you see that your dreams matter, your goals are absolutely achievable and you can do whatever you set your mind to. Sometimes, I need to encourage myself the same way! If you can believe in others, you most certainly can believe in your self.
Set boundaries. It's okay to say no. Any relationship or activity that does harm to you physically, emotionally or spiritually deserves a limit.
Take care of your body. Eat more veggies, drink more water, keep your heart healthy with some aerobic activity and get some sleep. It seems simple enough, but even small changes can have a great impact.
Forgive yourself. Just as you would forgive someone else to get past a situation, you have to learn to forgive yourself too. Sometimes we punish ourselves a little too much for mistakes in learning and growing. The key is to learn, adjust and keep it moving!
LIVE INTENTIONALLY. Yes, this one deserves all caps and bold letters! I know everyone tosses around the word "purpose" like you can just pick it up from the corner store. Even if your purpose isn't crystal clear to you yet, you can set an intention to live a healthy, meaningful life. Then, you're more likely to make decisions that support that intention.
I've had a year of practicing a lot of these self-loving exercises and so I'm excited to celebrate my personal new year of 28 in a couple of days!